Holding It Together (Kinda)
Here we will get real in our conversations about Mental Illness and Caregiving, and the messy reality of keeping it all balanced.
No sugar-coating, no clinical jargon—just real talk about the hospitalizations, the medication battles, and the toll it takes on a home
This is for the parents, siblings, and partners who are doing the impossible every single day.
Holding It Together is a home for the overthinkers, the multitaskers, and anyone who feels like they’re one spilled coffee away from a meltdown.
Holding It Together (Kinda)
#5 Companion If You Say Calm Down, We Fight
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Your nervous system can’t “just calm down” if it’s still scanning for danger. We do a midweek unpack of our conversation with Danielle Worthen Cullenberg, and it’s one of those talks that puts words to what so many neurodivergent and sensory-sensitive people feel every day: the body stays on high alert long after the immediate threat has passed.
We dig into “neurospicy” brains, sensory overload, trauma, and the invisible weight of caregiving pressure, then connect the dots to real-life patterns like vigilance, shutdown, avoidance, and control. Instead of treating dysregulation like bad behavior or a character flaw, we talk about nervous system regulation as a learnable process starting with awareness. The simplest shift is also the hardest: stop demanding calm and start getting curious about triggers, environments, and needs.
We also share a practical tool to help you put this into action, including a nervous system map that helps you catch early signals before you hit a breaking point, and prompts that explore what changes when stress becomes the atmosphere of a home. One of the biggest takeaways we keep coming back to is this: accommodations aren’t special treatment, they’re often the reason participation is even possible.
If anything here hits home, listen to the full conversation, try the Listener Action Guide, and then share it with someone who needs a gentler path to regulation. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what’s the earliest sign your system is getting overloaded?
DOWNLOAD THE FREE LISTENER ACTION GUIDE
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HrHl6opiJAKbvBoBvD4clhV92Q-6g1hi/view?usp=drive_link
LISTEN TO HOLDING IT TOGETHER (KINDA)
Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2nobQzuuYVGKY9NYYWgcvO
YouTube:
Search for HITKINDA
ADDITIONAL FAMILY AND CAREGIVER RESOURCES
Care Coalition Journal:
https://guardian-academy.thinkific.com/courses/CareKeeperJournal
Mental Health Resource Network:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1296747162391859
Care Coalition:
https://carecoalition.org/
SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT
We are moving to a platform called Discord. Think of it as our own private, invite-only living room.
JOIN HERE: https://discord.gg/2TCSdfNb
I want to be there for you more deeply, but as many of you know, our private Facebook group hasn't been working. It became cluttered, it lacked real privacy, and it turned into a place for people to advertise instead of support one another.
So, I have shut it down, and I’ve built us a brand-new, private home.
There are no algorithms, no social media noise, and absolutely zero spam or advertising.
I’ve set it up with a Free General Area where you can log in, pull up a chair, and just vent or chat with other caregivers who truly understand your day.
There’s no video required—you don't have to worry about getting dressed up or what your house looks like. You can just listen in and talk to me like a private phone call.
Now, if you aren't tech-savvy, please do not worry. I promise it is simple.
I can’t wait to see you there, talk to you directly, and finally give you the supportive community you deserve. Now, let’s get into today's show."
How to Join Our Private Care Community (Step-by-Step):
- Click this link: https://discord.gg/2TCSdfNb
- If you are on a phone, it will prompt you to download the free, secur...
