Holding It Together (Kinda)
Here we will get real in our conversations about Mental Illness and Caregiving, and the messy reality of keeping it all balanced.
No sugar-coating, no clinical jargon—just real talk about the hospitalizations, the medication battles, and the toll it takes on a home
This is for the parents, siblings, and partners who are doing the impossible every single day.
Holding It Together is a home for the overthinkers, the multitaskers, and anyone who feels like they’re one spilled coffee away from a meltdown.
Holding It Together (Kinda)
Kala Allen Omeiza: I Got Bullied In An Autism Lab
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Watching someone succeed can fool us into thinking they’re fine. Then Kala Allen Omeiza says something that stops us cold: she worked in top autism research spaces and still didn’t learn she was autistic until 24, after a painful rupture, a mental health crisis, and therapy that finally connected the dots.
We talk about what late autism diagnosis can look like when you’re a high achiever: sensory overload that gets dismissed, social communication gaps that get mislabeled, and the quiet burnout that builds when you’re always “passing.” Kala shares the irony of being bullied for autistic traits inside an autism research lab, and what it took to move from self-protection and academic distance to honest lived experience.
From there we dig into her nonfiction book Autistic and Black, built from interviews with Black autistic people across a wide range of support needs, and the Kwanzaa principle Ujima, collective responsibility. We also map the real-world gaps in mental health care across the US, the UK, and Nigeria, from cost barriers to long waitlists to severe shortages of psychiatrists and the way stigma can turn crisis into a “spiritual” problem instead of a healthcare one. Kayla closes with what she’s building through I’m Heard Incorporated and why family-level support has to be the next frontier.
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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT
We are moving to a platform called Discord. Think of it as our own private, invite-only living room.
JOIN HERE: https://discord.gg/2TCSdfNb
I want to be there for you more deeply, but as many of you know, our private Facebook group hasn't been working. It became cluttered, it lacked real privacy, and it turned into a place for people to advertise instead of support one another.
So, I have shut it down, and I’ve built us a brand-new, private home.
There are no algorithms, no social media noise, and absolutely zero spam or advertising.
I’ve set it up with a Free General Area where you can log in, pull up a chair, and just vent or chat with other caregivers who truly understand your day.
There’s no video required—you don't have to worry about getting dressed up or what your house looks like. You can just listen in and talk to me like a private phone call.
Now, if you aren't tech-savvy, please do not worry. I promise it is simple.
I can’t wait to see you there, talk to you directly, and finally give you the supportive community you deserve. Now, let’s get into today's show."
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